We will counsel you on your unspeakable concerns.
National Competition...
- On worries! - On worries!
(National Competition on Worries)
(Cheering)
Let me introduce our guests.
She is Lee Hwi Jae's wife and Seo Eon and Seo Jun's mom.
It's Moon Jung Won.
(Florist, Moon Jung Won)
It's Chun Myung Hoon, one of the original idol members.
Hello, it's nice to meet you all.
He's an interior designer and Hong Hyun Hee's husband.
He's popular these days. It's Jason!
Hello, it's nice to meet you.
They're Sol Bin and Yu Jeong of LABOUM.
Hello.
(It's nice to meet you.)
It's been about a decade since you last came here.
That's exaggerating it a bit. Why haven't you visited us?
I was waiting, but you never invited me over again.
I didn't change my number either.
During the times when we wanted to invite him,
he was self-reflecting.
That's why.
(His eyes are shaking.)
- There was a misunderstanding. - I guess so.
There was a misunderstanding.
Isn't this your first time appearing on a variety show...
- without your husband? - Yes, it's my first.
I did want to appear on a show without my husband.
(We wanted that as well.)
Many people are curious...
- about her twins. - You're right.
Are they doing well?
They're seven years old now,
but they act as if they're grown-ups.
- They sound mature, right? - You're right.
When I ask them to kiss me before they leave,
they say, "That's not necessary."
My goodness.
- No way. - They do that when they're seven.
- Right, they're nonchalant. - In front of their parents,
they kiss them. But when they leave,
they wipe their faces.
- You're right. - I'm serious.
- Goodness. - Let's see their photos.
- Yes. - I'm curious.
They're so cute.
They grew up so much.
Goodness.
- They're so cute. - They look like Lee Hwi Jae.
- Really? - They look alike.
They look so mature.
- They're so cute. - They grew up so much.
(Their family is full of happiness.)
By the way, Jason is here without his wife, Hyun Hee.
Will you continue to appear on shows by yourself?
Today, my wife pressured me.
"You must make yourself look interesting."
"Don't dishonor me."
- She said that? - Yes. I can mimic her.
(He mimics her facial expression.)
That's it.
- You look alike. - You didn't have to do that.
(They look the same.)
Sol Bin, you look like...
- a foreigner. - Right.
Do your parents look like that as well?
- Yes. My mother looks... - She's right.
the most exotic.
- That's my mom. - My goodness.
(They look South American.)
- Her brother looks exotic as well. - Her mom as well.
He looks like he's lived abroad.
Sol Bin looked even more exotic when she was young.
- I know. - Definitely.
- Your brother is very handsome. - He is.
Yes, but he changed for the worse.
He changed for the worse?
(This is unfair!)
He changed for the worse?
How was that possible?
Please introduce your new song.
"Firework" is a mature and intense song.
"Firework".
Please give us the music.
("Firework" by LABOUM)
They're good.
(Their song will brighten the people's hearts.)
(Fall in love with Sol Bin's gaze.)
(Check out Yu Jeong's mesmerizing hand movements.)
(Myung Hoon is having fun.)
(It's hard not to fall in love with them.)
(Today's my lucky day.)
We have brought three worries once again.
Show us the keywords, please.
"Please Send Her to a Dentist".
"Worry from Abroad".
"Please Believe Me".
"Please Send Her to a Dentist".
Someone needs to play the mom's role, but you see,
I don't have experience as a mom.
You don't have any experience as a mom.
No. I think you can relate. What do you say?
Sure.
- You'll be acting. How fun. - I know.
Hello.
My name is Jung Je Won. I'm 15 and the oldest.
I have two younger sisters.
Every day at home, someone is groaning in pain.
"Goodness."
She must be acting.
- Okay. - She sounded like a grandma.
It's embarrassing.
Act like yourself being sick.
"Goodness."
"What's wrong? Is it your teeth again?"
"That's why I told you to go to a dentist."
"I don't want to go. Goodness."
There's someone who'd rather die before visiting the dentist.
It's my mom.
(It's his mom.)
Since she hasn't gone to the dentist in a long time,
her teeth are in horrible shape.
She has almost no upper teeth.
My goodness.
She has almost no upper teeth.
(Startled)
As for her lower teeth, she only has a bit at the front.
She can neither eat nor chew on anything.
This is what I don't understand even more.
"You should brush your teeth before going to bed."
"You didn't forget..."
"your dentist appointment for tomorrow, right?"
She's the one who should be going,
but she always nags us.
I can't understand her one bit.
Could you convince her to go to the dentist?
That's it.
Do you take your kids to the dentist often?
- They hate it. - Right.
I have to convince them for 10 minutes in the parking lot.
I have to start persuading them the day before the visit.
So even the kids these days are scared of going to a dentist.
- Yes. - It was worse in our times.
It was because of the sound.
- Right. - Root canal treatment is...
The sound and the smell are terrifying.
- Right. - I know.
There are things...
our mothers say but don't practice.
They sometimes don't practice what they preach.
My mom sees a doctor whenever she's slightly unwell.
- That's really good. - But...
even after eating so much, she says she hasn't eaten yet.
Why do they do that? My mother does that too.
- Does she? - Yes.
"Is there no more food?"
- Eating well is a good thing. - Right.
Let's bring in the guest. Please come on out.
(Who is the son worried about his mom refusing to see a dentist?)
Hello
My goodness.
He looks like a nice boy.
(Jung Je Won)
Are your mother's teeth in a very bad shape?
Yes. My mom is 34.
- She's only 34? - She's of my age.
- She's young. - Tell us her age again.
34.
She was born in 1986.
She's really young.
- Shouldn't she have good teeth? - I know.
Her teeth look like that of an old lady.
Her upper teeth are almost gone.
Her lower teeth... She's only got a few frontal teeth.
Her molar teeth are almost all gone.
- How can she chew food? - How can she chew food?
She can't chew food well, so she always takes digestive medicine.
My goodness.
- She can't chew. - That's why.
When she takes photos, she always covers her mouth.
She refuses to see a dentist,
and yet she forces you and your sisters to see a dentist?
We go for a regular check-up twice a year.
- Can't she go with you then? - Does she go with you?
I suggested that she gets it fixed.
But she keeps delaying it, saying she will do it later.
Why does she refuse to go?
It's not like we are rich. We are not poor.
- But she doesn't... - What?
You are neither rich nor poor?
- Right. We're just middle class. - You think so?
Yes. That's what I think.
Perhaps she's scared of the sound?
I am sure it hurts to get your teeth fixed.
But cavity hurts more.
- Right. It hurts. - Cavity hurts.
- Right. - Every night,
she groans.
When I ask her what's wrong,
- Gosh. - she says she's unwell.
She always takes a painkiller and holds ice water in her mouth.
- Is it that bad? - When you don't get it treated,
germs from food enter the roots.
- That really hurts. - Yes.
- That really hurts. - It's 1 of the 3 common pains.
Headaches, toothaches, and cramps.
Does your father say anything on the matter?
He keeps talking to her. He even took her to a dentist.
He took her several times, but she refused every time.
That's why I sent the letter here.
Among the MCs of Hello, she's a big fan of Yeong Ja.
- She is? - Yes.
I thought perhaps she would listen to her.
She might be able to persuade her.
- That's nice. - Right.
He's clever.
Let's meet his mom...
and ask her what's going on.
Hello.
(Who's the mother with terrible teeth who hates going to a dentist?)
You heard what your son has to say. Can you sympathize?
Honestly,
it's my teeth that's hurting. So I don't know why that is his worry.
- But he's your son. - He's worried.
Still, it's me who's in pain.
(She's unbelievable.)
Tell us how bad the pain is.
Please tell us honestly.
On the right side, I've only got molar teeth.
On the right side, you've only got molar teeth. Both up and down?
I've only got molar teeth in the upper part. One each.
- One each. - She could say this...
- to a dentist. - Right.
She doesn't look any different...
from the outside.
Her pronunciation is perfect.
Nobody notices.
Unless I tell them,
people don't notice it.
Honestly, it hurts as I speak.
- It hurts now? - Yes.
How much does it hurt?
Is it a throbbing pain?
Actually, the best thing to do when you're in pain is sleeping.
I drink cold water. It really hurts for a moment.
- My goodness. - After that,
the pain doesn't feel too bad.
That's when I try to fall asleep.
- Goodness. - With bigger pain,
you forget the smaller pain and go to bed?
Yes.
(The treatment will hurt less.)
Doesn't it bother you when you eat?
- I can't eat cold food. - My goodness.
Because I don't have frontal teeth,
I can't even dream about having ribs.
When I chew something hard,
my gums get peeled.
When we eat grilled pork belly,
I usually eat mushrooms and other soft food.
(She can't even eat comfortably.)
Why don't you ask your husband to chew it for you?
I'd rather just not eat it.
I've done it before. When my wife was sick,
I chewed a pill and turned it into powder.
- You could use mortar and pestle. - You could ask the pharmacist.
It was big.
She couldn't swallow it. I thought she could take it,
- but she couldn't. - You are so sweet.
(I never thought of that.)
Your son feels really bad.
Have you never considered seeing a dentist?
I take in all the pain and wait until my tooth...
has to be taken out.
Then I go to the dentist.
When I go to the dentists, they all say the same thing.
"You are young. So why did you let it get this bad?"
It's embarrassing.
So after that time, I never went back.
I don't want to hear it again.
Ever since I was young,
I was scared of going to a dentist.
When you are young, it's scary.
But why did you not go to the dentist as an adult?
I had my son when I was 20.
Right.
I became a mother at an early age.
I had another baby the next year.
My second child is 14.
My goodness.
I got divorced at the age of 26.
I started raising my children alone.
I got my first job at 26.
- At 26. - Yes.
Raising the kids alone, life was too hectic.
I didn't have the financial means either.
- There were many reasons. - When you raise two children,
- you don't have time for a dentist. - Right.
What about your current husband?
We met four years ago and got married.
You got remarried.
Thinking about your life...
- Yes. - Yes.
- It's making her emotional. - Yes.
You are opening up to us...
and being completely honest with us.
You seem to really trust us.
If you don't mind,
can you show us your teeth? You've already opened up to us.
We've heard about your condition, but we haven't seen it.
Even my son hasn't seen my teeth.
- Your son hasn't seen them? - No.
- He hasn't seen them. - To be honest...
Even my husband has never seen my teeth.
It's very embarrassing for me.
- It's my weakness. - Right.
I had to think hard...
about coming out here.
I'm too embarrassed to show it.
It's very embarrassing, so I will let you have a quick glimpse.
Don't be surprised.
(They pay attention to her.)
(Please open your mouth.)
(She will reveal her teeth.)
Open your mouth vertically and horizontally.
These are gone.
- They are gone. - How about the upper side?
- They've all gone bad. - They are gone.
(It's his first time to see his mother's teeth.)
(They are shocked.)
- The upper side... - They are gone.
- There's none. - Yes.
- There's none left. - It's...
It's your first time to see it. Are you surprised?
Yes.
Is it worse than you imagined?
I thought she would have some teeth.
- You didn't know it was that bad. - No.
(Seeing her empty mouth makes him feel empty.)
(It will get even worse if she doesn't get it treated.)
But now, don't you have time and money...
to go to the dentist?
We are still financially struggling.
It's tough.
I think that's just an excuse.
If you had made time for it and gotten it treated,
you wouldn't have to spend so much.
Right.
I've been to a dentist.
The last time I went to a dentist was 5 to 6 years ago.
5 to 6 years ago.
When you get the root canal treatment,
the dentist scrapes out the inside...
and fills the hole temporarily...
- with a white substance. - Right.
After getting that done...
- You didn't go back. - I didn't.
- Why did you not go back? - Why not?
At the time, I got a quote.
It was going to cost a little more than 20,000 dollars.
(She got a quote of 20,000 dollars.)
- 20,000 dollars? - That was the quote.
- That's to get everything fixed? - Yes.
You must've needed implants.
At the time, I got...
a big sum of money from my father, so I was going to go.
But I used that to start a business.
(She spent the money on business.)
What kind of a business do you do?
I used to sell electric unicycles.
The business didn't go well.
But that's when I met my husband.
You lost teeth and got a husband.
(She lost teeth and got a husband.)
I am curious. Until when will you...
leave your teeth untreated?
I have no intention of going to a dentist anytime soon.
- Honestly... - You have to go though.
I'd rather just lose all of them.
Why?
With the money to get 1 or 2 dental implants,
- You can get dentures. - I can get dentures.
I want to lose all of them...
and get dentures.
Right? I don't mind spending on my children.
But it feels like a waste to spend on me.
- My gosh. - That's...
That's...
(He's frustrated.)
Her husband must be very frustrated.
Let's talk to him. Hello.
Hello.
Your son came here because he was worried about his mother's teeth.
Are you frustrated too?
I am very frustrated.
Her teeth can't get any worse than they are now.
She keeps saying it hurts.
It's frustrating as she won't go to a dentist even if I ask her to.
- There's nothing I can do. - Right.
It really frustrates me.
When we were dating,
I didn't notice her teeth were missing for a year.
- You didn't? - No.
Have you really never seen it before?
This is the first time I've seen it.
These are gone.
(He's shocked and confused.)
How do you feel when you saw it?
You only see some of her lower teeth, right?
I never imagined she had so few teeth left.
Right. He couldn't really see it.
Normally, wouldn't you find it out while dating?
- Am I too... - You're right.
- When you do a certain something... - Have I watched too many dramas?
Hold on. Let me ask an expert.
Dong Yeob.
You're an expert.
(Please tell us, Dong Yeob.)
Wouldn't you find it out while you're dating?
There are people like me who count the person's teeth.
You count the person's teeth.
Some people might not think about it at all.
They might just think, "This is nice."
You're right.
Still, you're her husband.
- Shouldn't you have forced her? - Exactly.
Shouldn't you have told her it'd be okay and taken her to a dentist?
I once did,
and I was the one who was treated that day.
Did you fail to persuade her?
She was so stubborn.
Are you worried about the cost?
She is the one who has control...
over our family finance.
- Really? - Even my salary.
- Really? - Yes.
I'd love to save up some money...
and take her to a dentist.
But she keeps spending money on useless things.
- What? - Like what?
What does she spend money on?
Electric unicycles?
No.
She buys...
- a lot of fake nails. - Fake nails.
She owns more materials than an average nail salon.
Does she spend all her money on nails?
She loves perfumes too.
Her dressing table is full of perfumes.
That's a lot.
It looks like a nail salon.
- She has a machine too. - What's that machine?
Is that a mask?
- Perfumes. - Perfumes.
That must be the way she relieves her stress.
- Probably. - The thing is,
I spend no more than 50 dollars a month on those things.
Even if I save that up for a year, I can't afford half an implant.
- That's just an excuse. - Right.
Your health is more important than looking pretty.
I get only 100 dollars a month from her.
- 100 dollars a month from her. - 100 dollars?
Yes.
It's hard to imagine.
Transportation alone would cost more than that.
- It's too little. - Of course.
- You need more than that. - Yes.
Is that why you're here today?
(Is that why you're here today?)
(Give me more money.)
Dad thinks he gets too little money.
I think he gets enough. I get only 40 dollars a month.
The round-trip bus ride costs two dollars.
- After 5 days, 10 dollars is gone. - 10 dollars is gone.
- Right. - You can only afford the bus rides?
Almost.
Do you walk to save money then?
I walk...
and go to an Internet cafe with the saved money.
And Dad gets 60 more dollars than you?
Yes, it's a lot.
- He thinks his dad gets enough. - He doesn't walk.
Do you have any other complaints than Mom not going to a dentist?
I do.
- You do? - Yes.
It's about house chores.
From laundry...
to cleaning, making rice,
taking care of my sisters, and even cooking...
- Who does all that? - Me.
Really?
Is it because your mom has a toothache?
Her back hurts too. She had surgery a few years ago.
- I see. - She has a herniated disk.
It's getting worse and worse.
So you do all the house chores?
That's not true. He doesn't do everything.
He helps me.
He's actually very good at house chores.
- He's really good. - It's because he's good.
He might think that he does everything.
- You only ask him to do it. - The thing is,
if I ask him to do 1 thing, he does 2.
If I ask him to clean the house, he takes care of his sisters too.
You have sisters too.
One sister is a year younger than me.
I tell Mom to ask her instead,
but she says, "You're better. And you're older than her."
It's so frustrating. I'm going to cry.
- Oh, my. - He's crying.
She only asks me.
(She only asks me.)
- Oh, my. - It must be frustrating.
He's in eighth grade now.
He's at the center of the universe.
(Too much housework frustrates him.)
He does his best, but he doesn't feel rewarded.
- Oh, my. - He's frustrated.
- Say everything today. - He needs compliments.
- It all started because... - He needs comfort.
Both her husband and son...
came here because of her teeth problems,
but they have other complaints too.
Say everything today. Keep talking.
- Yes. Keep talking. - Being the eldest child is hard.
At first, I didn't go to Internet cafes.
I didn't have any game accounts.
My mom is only 20 years older than me, so I didn't buy any account.
(I didn't buy any game account.)
It's a big deal if he didn't go to Internet cafes in elementary school.
It means everything to them.
In sixth grade, I started playing games for the first time.
When the kids talked about different game characters,
I wanted to join.
- Of course. - Oh, my.
He was only a kid.
He couldn't join the other kids' conversation.
- It's important to kids. - It is.
You didn't even play games and saved money.
Why does Mom tell you to do all the house chores?
I don't know. Mom says my sister is not good at it.
But she's not stupid or anything.
Once she learns it, she'll do it well.
(She can learn it.)
Is she not stupid?
No, she's not.
She might be even smarter than him.
That's even more annoying.
- That'd make him even angrier. - It must be so annoying.
She can do it if she's asked to.
But she never does it. When Mom asks her to do something,
she smiles at me to tease me.
That's so annoying.
- That's annoying. - Oh, my.
Let me ask. You have a daughter too.
- Why don't you ask her? - She's special to me.
Her hearing is impaired.
She couldn't hear well even as a little kid.
That's why I'm more generous with her.
- You're more generous with her. - Yes.
I do understand.
Still, it's just her hearing that's bad. The rest is fine.
He's very optimistic. He's a good son.
Your mom says...
she asks you because you're good at it.
You're good at cooking and doing the dishes.
Have you tried to pretend you're bad at it?
I have. But if I'm bad, I get scolded.
If I'm good, she only asks me to do it.
What is he supposed to do?
He's in a dilemma.
I'm sorry, but I feel sorrier for him.
- I feel sorry for him. - Both his mom...
and sister are giving him a hard time.
You're so frustrated about housework that you cry.
But are you still concerned about Mom's condition?
- Yes. - He's so thoughtful.
- He's very thoughtful. - He's the eldest child.
She already has back pains,
and I'm worried she won't be able to use her teeth.
You're so thoughtful.
(He's thoughtful.)
If Mom goes to a dentist,
would you worry less?
Mom and Dad fight a lot too.
- They do? - There are many problems.
You two have quite a few problems.
One of the biggest reasons why they fight is computer games.
I play games at home,
and Dad doesn't like it,
so he scolds me.
Mom tries to defend me, and they start fighting.
It's okay. Drink some water and speak clearly.
Speak clearly.
He speaks well otherwise,
but whenever he talks about games, he chokes up.
It's understandable.
- It's understandable. - He wants to play more games.
Games are the most important thing to him right now.
Start talking again. Mom and Dad fight?
They fight over computer games.
And when they fight,
they even talk about breaking up.
- Again. - Did you hear it?
Yes, I did.
How did you feel...
when you heard them talking about breaking up?
- I went blank. - At that moment.
I couldn't really understand what was going on.
- You went blank. - When they fight,
I just want to get out of the situation.
- Of course. - Right.
- You don't want them to break up? - No.
Having a dad is nice.
- Of course. - I didn't have one for a while.
Now I don't want to lose him.
You didn't have one for a while.
What's the best thing about having a dad?
Having a dad itself is nice.
- Oh, my. - Oh, my.
(Having a dad itself is nice.)
(His dad filled up an empty space in his heart.)
(His dad has become so important that he doesn't want to lose him.)
(I feel sorry for him.)
Does he take care of you...
as a man?
Not really.
(The mood changes completely.)
Don't ask him that.
I didn't know.
(She's not crying anymore.)
I'm sure it wasn't your intention,
but did you know it was making your son so anxious?
He's right about why we fight.
Kids these days can't put their phones down, right?
In the end, he always gets caught by his dad.
My husband is pretty short-tempered.
He sometimes says harsh things without a filter.
- Does he? - Yes.
Something he said to Je Won really broke my heart.
"I'll leave this house..."
"because I can't stand you."
He said that to Je Won, and it broke my heart.
Why did you say that?
He shouldn't have said that.
(He shouldn't have said it no matter how angry he was.)
You should apologize.
He speaks without a filter.
(She's worried it would have hurt her son.)
I was feeling very frustrated...
and stressed out.
So I said that in the heat of the moment.
I regret it now.
I'll try to be a more loving dad.
But the thing is,
I don't think this all happened because of one problem.
- Right. - Right.
Going to a dentist is tough. It's terrifying.
But when your husband and son insist this much,
you should muster up your courage, although it's tough and terrifying.
- Of course. - Listen to your husband.
When your son helps you...
so much and does a lot of chores,
you should compliment him.
If you try to give each other good energy,
perhaps you won't all get sensitive and irritated.
Perhaps that won't happen.
Lastly, what do you want from your mother?
I want my mom to smile brightly.
I wish they would fight less.
I hope I could do slightly less house chores.
Tell your dad what you want from him too.
Please let me use the computer more.
You forgot to mention the dentist's office, didn't you?
He must've forgotten.
You came here because of your mom's teeth.
Tell her.
I hope Mom will go see the dentist.
[VIU Ver] KBS2 E428 'Hello Counselor' "Please Believe Me" -♥ Ruo Xi ♥-
You came here for gaming, didn't you?
(Did he come here so that he can play more games?)
What do you think now?
Tell us what you will do about the dentist.
You have to muster up your courage.
I am not ready yet.
When you say you are not ready yet,
is the problem money?
When we are better off financially,
I will think about it.
- The pain is... - Can you put up with the pain?
I am not sure.
The first time is hard.
What your eldest son wants...
is your family's happiness.
Seeing you being in pain...
is very painful for the child.
It must make him have a lot of thoughts.
- That's why he plays games. - Yu Jeong, do you think...
it's a worry or not?
- Is it a worry? - I think it's a worry.
I think it's a big worry.
It's a worry.
He's carrying the burden...
that's too big for him.
I feel proud of him and feel bad for him at the same time.
I think it's a worry.
For your son and for your own health,
you should start the treatment.
You are in pain right now.
You need to muster up your courage.
Both your son and your husband need courage.
He's not like any other sons.
He's not a selfish boy.
Even in such hardships,
he took care of you.
What he wants is for you to start the treatment.
- Right. - Just start it.
That's all he wants.
(Please...)
- I will go to the dentist's. - All right.
To make your family happier,
you have to go to the dentist's...
and start the treatment.
- Yes. - All right.
If you think it's a worry for the son,
please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
All right. 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Time's up.
Let's see how many votes he got.
"Please Send Her to a Dentist".
(The result)
Out of 200, did he get more than 100 votes?
Let's see.
(She's curious.)
How many votes did he get?
(Let's see.)
163 votes.
(She got 163 votes.)
"Worry from Abroad".
Hello. I am a mother in her 40s who is raising 4 daughters...
and 1 son, 5 children.
Five years ago, after realizing that it's...
too tough to raise five children in Korea,
my entire family moved to Turkey.
To Turkey.
(Located at the westernmost of Asia, Turkey has been...)
(acting as the gateway between the East and the West.)
(Turkish cuisine, famous for kebab is often referred to as...)
(1 of the 3 best cuisines of the world.)
There's no private education, and the cost of living is low.
We were glad to have moved,
except for one person, our 18-year-old daughter.
"I don't like Turkey. I want to go back to Korea."
"It's tough, isn't it, darling?"
"I will help you adjust to the new life."
"No. I'm going back to Korea."
"I miss my friends."
Five years passed. And now...
"Darling, why did you get such bad grades?"
"Why do I have to learn Turkish history?"
"You should still study."
"No. I don't want to go to school."
"Just send me back to Korea."
"It's tough for me too, darling."
"Can't you understand me?"
"So why did you have me?"
- My goodness. - "How can you say such a thing?"
"You had me because you wanted to. Why are you whining?"
"You should've just not had me."
Until when will my daughter live with her heart closed?
Please help me...
and my daughter reconcile.
She sent us the letter.
(I want to reconcile with my eldest daughter.)
I think it was worse because they moved to Turkey...
- when she was at a sensitive age. - Right.
You once stayed in China...
- right. - for a long time, didn't you?
- As a member of NRG. - We performed a lot in China.
I'm sure it's hard to believe it, but I was the first generation...
- Korean wave idol star. - He's right.
NRG was very popular in China.
There's such a thing called Performance Disease.
I'll tell you what it is.
In front of 100,000 people,
- we performed. - You put on a fancy performance.
Drenched in sweat, I went inside the hotel.
While taking a shower, I felt so lonely.
I felt empty.
Whenever I felt the feeling of emptiness,
I wanted to go to Yangsu-ri and have pork belly with soju.
I couldn't stop thinking that.
- But you couldn't. - I couldn't wait to go home.
She came all the way from Turkey.
Please come on out.
(Who's worried about her daughter who grew apart from her...)
(ever since they moved to Turkey?)
Hello
(Yun Sun Ja)
Did you really fly all the way from Turkey...
because of the trouble with your eldest daughter?
Yes.
In 2014, my family migrated.
- Five years ago. - Other kids are doing well.
But my daughter who was in sixth grade then...
- Sixth grade. - couldn't adjust to the life there,
and I feel really bad about it.
Puberty comes fast for girls.
They say it comes around the 5th or 6th grade.
You moved when she was at her awkward age.
Can you be more specific about what troubles you have?
My daughter was a good student in Korea.
It was hard for her to study in Turkish.
She must've been really frustrated.
She had to learn ethics in Turkish.
Culture and history too.
She had to learn Turkish culture and history.
She really hated going to school.
We can understand her.
So we stopped talking.
When I tried talking to her, she went into her room.
Oh, dear.
Did you not think about returning to Korea...
since she was really struggling to adjust there?
But my other children are doing well.
And my husband got a job there.
So it's not realistic for us to move back.
When we lived in Korea,
we used to spend over 2,000 dollars on private education.
- In Korea? - Right.
When I sent my kids to a piano class,
they wanted to learn the violin.
Then they wanted to learn the flute too.
Even if my husband and I earned 5,000 dollars,
it was really tough.
So we ran from it.
We just packed up two huge bags each and moved.
Goodness.
In Turkey, how much do you spend...
on children's education?
Public education is enough.
What if the kids want to learn the violin?
It's nearly nonexistent.
- They don't teach those? - They don't.
- In Korea... - They intentionally moved there.
- But... - I don't understand.
Korea is different.
When the kid next door does it, my kid has to do it too.
That's how it works.
- Here, you have to... - Nobody gets private education.
get private education.
When you decided to move to Turkey,
how did your daughter react?
She wasn't particularly against it.
We were moving, but we thought we would come back...
if things don't turn out well.
So we thought we would just go and give it a try.
So your daughter thought...
- So you went. - you'd stay there for a while.
She couldn't adjust, so she asked to go back.
But her mom wasn't willing to move back.
- She must've been surprised. - It must've been tough for her.
She said a lot of hurtful things...
- to you during the fight. - Right.
She blamed me for having her.
She also blamed me for having four more children.
She blamed you for having you and her siblings.
Just imagining about it breaks me inside.
If my sons say that after all I've done...
to raise them...
(What should I do with my daughter?)
Let's meet her daughter.
- Hello. - Hello.
(Who's her daughter who insists on coming back to Korea?)
Hello.
You heard your mom. Can you understand her worry?
I can understand a little bit.
But when I was growing up in Korea,
I thought I was going to live and get buried in Korea.
That's what I thought.
When we were moving to Turkey, she said we were going...
on a trip for a month.
(Her mom told her that they were just going on a trip for a month.)
That's what she said.
- She lied. - I told my friends...
that I would see them after a month.
I didn't even get to properly say bye to them.
I wasn't ready when I left.
- You didn't get to say bye. - You thought you were traveling.
- That's what happened? - You must've been sad.
- That's important. - That's why she got mad.
That's...
That must've been very shocking for her.
You told her you were going on a trip for a month.
- Why did you lie? - I'd sever the tie.
I've seen some people returning just after a month.
But when we moved,
- it was... - Was it okay?
Was it nice to live?
- There were more good things. - But still...
Then if you decided to stay after a month,
you should've told her the truth.
If I had told her...
I guess she didn't tell her and waited it out.
(That's very bad.)
It's not that I didn't wait it out.
- It's because... - Were you delaying it?
I was just delaying it.
That's waiting it out.
- But it's... - I know.
- It's different? - It's different.
- I see. - It's different.
While you were staying in Turkey,
what did you like about Turkey to make you want to live there?
In Turkey, it's possible for moms to focus on raising their kids...
as a full-time housewife without working.
And children have more free time...
without private education.
Studying must be more enjoyable.
- They don't get stressed too much. - That's right.
There are good things...
- about any countries. - That's true.
But to me, there were more inconvenience than benefits.
First of all, I need to translate what I hear...
and what I want to say before I speak.
There are many times when I can't convey my message clearly.
Right. It's hard to communicate with others.
Also, at school,
there aren't many Asian students,
so every little thing I do...
represents all Koreans' behaviors.
She must be under pressure.
(Was it that stressful?)
However, even if there's something you want,
if you realize that there's no way you can make it happen,
- it'd be better to let it go... - That's right.
and try to get used to your new life as soon as possible.
- She should let it go. - My mom and I...
made a promise.
Students with a total score higher than 85 points during a semester...
receive an award.
So my mom promised to send me to Korea...
even on a short trip...
if I receive the award more than five times.
And I achieved the goal.
But my mom said, "We can't afford it right now,"
- "so let's talk about it later." - She broke her promise.
- I told her about it again later, - "Let's talk about it later."
but she denied making the promise.
- That's what she said. - Instead of apologizing?
That's right. So I was speechless.
- Ma'am, is that true? - Oh, no. I think...
I never said it like that. I didn't...
- I didn't say I won't... - You couldn't afford it...
Who is telling the truth?
We couldn't afford it at the time.
Since my husband has an irregular income as he's a tour guide,
So I said I will send her to Korea when I can.
I promised to send her on a trip when I can.
(The conflict between them can't seem to be resolved.)
Then let's meet her younger siblings and see how they feel.
Do you want to live in Korea or Turkey?
Of course, I want to live in Turkey.
- Really? - She feels completely different.
- Why? - It's because...
since I'm good at making friends,
I'm practically Turkish who looks like Korean.
So I don't have any problems about living in Turkey.
Also, since I'm bilingual,
I can get a job as a tour guide or an interpreter.
I think I have more chances to get a stable job.
However, there's a drawback of living in Turkey.
Turkish dishes are made with too much condiments.
- Everything is too salty or sweet. - I see.
So I think I gained a lot of weight because of that.
She gained weight.
- She's worried about her weight. - Because she gained weight?
- It's the only problem she has. - She's adorable.
I guess you're fluent in Turkish.
Yes, I am.
Can you say hello to everyone in Turkish?
- Introduce yourself in Turkish. - Yes.
Hello. I'm Jeong Ah. I was born in 2004,
and I'm Korean.
(She speaks Turkish fluently.)
"My life in Turkey has been very satisfactory."
- I don't think he's right. - Simultaneous interpreting?
- Yes, that's right. - I see.
- We should confirm if he's right. - Did he lie?
Exactly.
That's Jeong Ah.
I guess people in Turkey also use Photoshop.
Look at that.
They use photo editing applications like we do.
I can see she's getting along well with her friends.
What's your name?
I'm Jang Seong Ah.
Seong Ah, do you want to live in Turkey?
Yes, I do.
- Why? - I'm more used to...
living in Turkey than in Korea now.
And I have more friends in Turkey.
- So I prefer living in Turkey. - Because he moved there as a baby.
- He's good with words. - He has more friends in Turkey.
- Then let's ask... - The youngest one.
Do you want to live in Turkey or Korea?
(What could be her choice?)
(Part 2 will begin shortly.)
Do you want to live in Turkey or Korea?
- Turkey. - I see.
Which language are you more comfortable with? Korean or Turkish?
Turkish.
(Oh, my. Is that true?)
(She lost completely as her mother got another supporter.)
Then can you say hello to everyone in Turkish just as your sister did?
(How will she say hello in Turkish?)
(Unlike what she said, she can't speak Turkish fluently.)
(Struggling)
- She's thinking. - She's trying to think of words.
- She must be taken aback. - She's so cute.
Could Turkish be too difficult for you to learn?
What's wrong? You said you're comfortable with Turkish.
- Why are you being so shy? - Exactly.
It can be hard for some people to do it in front of many people.
Seong Ah, do you understand how your oldest sister feels...
and why she wants to come back to Korea?
Yes, I understand how she feels. I often see her...
messaging her friends in Korea...
while staying in Turkey.
I can see how much she misses living in Korea,
and understand how she feels.
- He's very thoughtful. - I'm surprised.
Oh, my. He has such a big heart.
He's good with words too.
Then Jeong Ah, since you adjusted to your new life in Turkey well,
can't you help your sister get used to it as well?
When she argues with Mom,
she stubbornly tries not to let Mom win,
which doesn't look good. She seems rude to me.
- Pardon? - She seems rude to me.
(What did we just hear?)
She said her sister seems rude.
(I was just kidding.)
When my mom is not happy about something,
she tends to be foul-mouthed.
She doesn't look like she would ever be like that.
So when we argue,
she swears at me sometimes.
Whenever she says harsh things like, "Let's just die together",
I have no choice but to close my heart to her.
(That's a shame.)
One time, a student in higher grade than me...
tried to make friends with me saying he's interested in Korea.
So I treated him nicely thinking that he liked Koreans.
But he started to cross the line.
He called me every day,
and came to my classroom to see me.
I ended up blocking him on the messenger.
- You handled it well. - But then,
- he sent our conversations... - Did he post it on the Internet?
- to an online broadcaster. - Gosh.
- That's ridiculous. - However, my name was revealed,
- whereas his name was blurred. - Oh, no.
I saw a lot of negative comments about me like...
"What's so special about her who's from such a small country?"
When I saw the comments like that,
- I was shocked. - It's shocking.
I was perplexed, so I told my mom, but she said,
"You've become famous."
(As if she didn't even care)
That's the only thing she said.
- Ma'am, come on. - That's not good.
So I...
- She must've been disappointed. - It's too harsh.
I didn't want her to be weak-hearted.
That's why I tried to sound tough. That's all.
(Then how did you really feel?)
I met the principal of her school...
to request a proper action regarding the boy...
- since I was worried as well. - Of course, you were.
I did everything I could to help her.
Why didn't you show your feelings to your daughter?
"I understand how you feel. You must be surprised. It's okay."
"I will make sure to resolve it." Why didn't you tell that to her?
Many of the parents on Hello...
tend to be tough on their children when they talk to them,
- hoping they can understand. - Right.
That won't help your child become stronger.
- It only hurt her feelings, - Exactly.
and lower her self-esteem.
Before you moved to Turkey,
did you get along well with your mother and talk to her often?
No. Since we lived in Korea,
it was hard for me...
- to talk to my mom. One day, - It was already hard?
a man came to our house.
He asked me to open the door saying he had a delivery for us.
Since my younger siblings and I were at home without our parents,
I told him to leave the parcel at the door and leave.
- Good. - He said I should open the door.
He kept insisting I should open the door.
And I refused to open it. After a while,
he suddenly asked my name.
So I refused to tell him my name.
It felt like an intruder tried to break into our house.
- Of course. - So I called my mom,
- It must've been scary. - and told her what happened.
She said, "He must've been from a credit card company." and hung up.
(That's too harsh.)
Since my mom is always indifferent,
I talked to my friends instead to feel better.
She must've been disappointed.
(She always talked to her friends about how she felt.)
Did you know that she had been hurt by your reactions like that?
As a working mom,
I always fought the clock, and such a routine was repeated.
I think that's why it became hard and awkward...
for me to have conversations with my children.
(I think I'm not used to having conversations with the kids.)
However, you must admit what you did wrong.
- Okay. - Before you moved to Turkey...
She protected her younger siblings.
She refused to let a stranger in your house. She did well.
- She did well. - I understand you were too busy,
but do you admit that you talked cold-heartedly to her?
- Yes, I did. I was too busy. - Do you admit it?
- Do you? - Yes, I admit it.
- Your mother admitted it. - I admit it.
- She's smiling. - Yes, she is.
As the second daughter,
do you understand the struggles...
your elder sister goes through as well as your mother?
I do understand her struggles a little.
However,
still...
- I still think she's too harsh. - You still don't understand...
- she speaks rudely? - That's right.
She goes to a private school.
Her tuition is enough for her...
to go on trips to Korea...
and buy things she needs.
But she keeps asking Mom to send her to Korea...
while going to a private school.
So I don't understand her.
- Only she goes to a private school? - Yes.
Before I transferred to a private school,
I went to a vocational school.
I didn't study saying I hated living in Turkey.
So for the past two years, my mom and Jeong Ah...
have been nagging at me about my school records...
and failing to get admitted to a regular high school.
So I said,
"Mom, send me back to Korea, or send me to a private school."
Then my mom said...
she would send me to a private school.
That's how I transferred to a private school.
When we were living in Korea, she got good grades.
If she had set her mind on study,
she would've done well in Turkey as well.
However, it makes me a little sad and worried...
that you moved to Turkey to save money from private education,
but you still put pressure on your child...
to get good grades even after moving to Turkey.
(It's not easy.)
However, she...
isolates herself from the family.
Whenever her younger siblings or I ask her to help us do something,
she refused to help us.
She behaved like that often.
It's not fair to me.
When we first moved to Turkey, there was no one in our family...
who could speak Turkish.
But she made me master Turkish before everyone else did...
just because I'm the oldest child,
so I could help her out whenever she needed me.
For example, whenever she went to the bank,
- she took me with her. - You must've been pressured.
So I want to be rewarded for what I've done.
Now that my younger siblings speak Turkish well too,
I want them to run errands for her just as I did before.
That's how I feel.
She must've been under pressure as the oldest child.
(Was it that hard?)
Did you know that she was that stressed out?
Oh, that's why she refused to do house chores with us.
I see why she tried to make her younger siblings do it.
You should change the tone of your voice.
Even the same comment may sound different.
"Oh, that's why refused to do it."
- "Oh, I get it." - Exactly.
- Rather than that, - You could be misunderstood.
you can say it like this instead.
- "Oh, that's why she refused." - Right.
- "It was too stressful for her." - That's right.
This is how you should say it.
Instead, you said, "Oh, I get it."
- Dong Yeob is right, ma'am. - It sounds different.
- I didn't know. - Right.
- You sounded angry... - We almost misunderstood you too.
- I see that now. - Great.
(She looks a little happier now.)
Her younger sister also...
came on this show.
When your sister said she was moving to Turkey five years ago,
how did you feel?
I didn't hear the news early.
- You were surprised, weren't you? - One day, I came home.
I live with my parents.
And I heard that she was moving to Turkey with her family.
My parents started crying.
Your parents cried?
(She gets teary too.)
- She told us right before she left. - Oh, she didn't tell them.
In the morning of the day, on their way to the airport,
- she told the family. - Oh, no.
I understood that she was going through a hard time, but...
(The thought of it makes her choke.)
- The thought of it makes you cry? - It still makes her cry.
I thought that it must've been so hard for her...
seeing that she decided to raise her children...
- in a foreign country. - You understood her situation.
As her sister started crying...
I don't know who he is, but the man who's sitting next to her...
- got teary too. - He seems to feel so bad for her.
He looks so sad.
- Are you her husband? - Yes, I am.
Oh, he's her husband.
Of course. It'd be weird if a stranger cries with her.
(It would've been weird if he were a stranger.)
Exactly. I was so surprised.
What's the reason you have to live in Turkey...
despite all the obstacles?
I wanted to give my children a chance...
- to experience a larger world. - To show them.
Even though we still have difficulties living in Turkey,
I thought it would be beneficial to their future life in 10 years...
as it's good life experience.
That's true.
In fact, I have a feeling that you got off...
- on the wrong foot. - That's right.
I agree.
And that's why you two still have resentment towards each other...
that you couldn't let go of.
If you really want to come back to Korea,
you can study hard in Turkey...
so you can get admitted to a university in Korea.
What would you do, ma'am?
She'll be come back to Korea as an adult,
so I won't be against the idea.
- Will you respect her decision? - Yes, I will.
- Because she won't be a minor. - That's right.
Can't you try to get along well with your mother...
and try to understand her better just for another two years?
(How about you try to understand your mother for two years?)
(What could be her answer?)
Sure. I am willing to do so.
Good.
In fact, in a family with many children,
the oldest child is...
- is always treated unfairly... - That's right.
- just because she's the oldest. - Exactly.
She still needs love and care from her parents,
- but she's forced to be an adult, - That's right.
and is given a lot of responsibilities.
I understand it must be hard, but I hope you treat her...
the same way you treat the others...
at least until she becomes an adult...
instead of forcing her to act like an adult.
I think she needs it.
(Show your love to her as much as you do to the other kids.)
And you should let go of your burdens while you're here.
- Apologize to your mother as well. - That would be great.
First of all,
I didn't fail the high school entrance exam intentionally,
but you scolded me harshly. And that made me feel...
a little disappointed.
But I also said harsh things like, "Why did you have me?"
"Why did you have five children?"
I'd like to apologize to you for saying such things.
Good.
You did well.
I want you to know that you're such a reliable daughter,
and that I'm grateful to you.
And I'm sorry for treating you badly.
I love you.
That's great.
It's beautiful.
Say a few words to your younger siblings too.
My dear brother and sisters, I really...
love you so much.
- Although I'm not good at... - Look at Jeong Ah.
expressing my feelings just like Mom.
I say things like, "Why were you born?"
Look how they're looking at her.
But I'm actually grateful that you were born, and I love you.
Tell her that you love her.
- "I love you." - How cute.
- Let's start the vote. - Okay.
- I think it's a serious worry. - Okay.
They could grow apart if they can't communicate with each other.
While talking with us about their issues,
I think they resolved part of their problem.
I have a feeling that good things will happen to the family.
I can see how much they love each other.
If you think it's a worry,
please press the button.
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
- Time's up. - I wonder how many votes she got.
Please show us the result.
(The result)
"Worry from Abroad".
(How many people in the audience can relate to her story?)
Is it over 100?
She got only 41 votes.
(41 votes)
"Please Believe Me".
Hello. I'm a newlywed groom. I've been married less than a year.
My wife looks the prettiest in the world in my eyes.
But I guess my wife doesn't agree.
"Honey, do you think I got fat? Do you?"
"Gosh. No, I don't. You still look pretty."
"You're lying!"
"I'm fat and ugly. Why are you lying to me?"
He's reading it so well.
My wife has low self-esteem.
The doorbell rings.
"Here's fried chicken you ordered."
"Honey, can you receive the food since I'm in the bathroom?"
"What? No. You do it."
"I'm too embarrassed to open the door."
It's hard for her to even meet other people.
The problem is...
"Honey, what did you do at work today?"
"I worked outside of the office with my work colleague."
"What? With your work colleague?"
"Is your work colleague a woman? Were you alone with her?"
"Are you two close? How close? Were you alone with her?"
Her low self-esteem caused doubts about me.
"That's enough!"
"What did you say? Did you just yell at me?"
"Let's just get divorced if you're going to act like this!"
How could she say such a thing when we just got married?
We fight more and more because of my wife.
Please help me and my wife.
(Please stop my wife from doubting me.)
How long have you been married?
I've been married for 11 months.
Our guest has been married less than a year too.
It feels like you've been married for 11 years.
I feel that way too.
Doesn't Hyun Hee have high self-esteem?
Hyun Hee has such high confidence.
And she plays a character with high confidence too.
- That's true. - "It's on me. Eat a lot."
- She behaves like this. - That was good.
You imitated her well.
Don't you feel this way sometimes?
Since your husband, Hwi Jae, is a TV celebrity,
- as his wife... Exactly. - Do you feel insecure?
In early years of our marriage, Hwi Jae worked...
with a lot of actresses in his sitcoms and comedy skits.
- He performed with them. - That's right.
- On a variety show, too. - Exactly.
But he was just acting.
Back then, I thought...
that since he worked with...
such beautiful women,
he would never fall in love with me.
- I once thought this way. - I see.
- It could lower your self-esteem. - But you're beautiful too.
Whatever happened, he's a good husband...
- who loves no one else but you. - Yes, he is, indeed.
I just hope he will regain his energy.
Regain his energy?
- He lacks energy? - Since they had two children,
- he lacks energy. - I'm sorry for him.
Hwi Jae, how did it happen?
- He should regain his energy. - Goodness.
They're a newlywed couple.
The husband sent us his worry because he was worried.
Please come on out!
(Who is this husband who's suffering...)
(from his wife's lack of self-esteem?)
(Kim Jung Hyun)
How serious is her lack of self-esteem...
that you'd come out here...
when you're still newlyweds?
Usually, women ask how pretty they are.
- They ask more in the beginning. - Right.
"Am I pretty? Which part?"
- But it's the opposite. - The opposite?
"How ugly am I? How fat am I?"
She asks such questions.
- Why would she? - Why?
There are some fat comediennes on TV.
Fat comediennes?
Wait.
Don't look at her.
- Where were you looking? - You shouldn't have looked.
- I sensed an icy stare. - Why would you look over there?
I sensed it.
(That wasn't intentional.)
She asks if she looks similar and becomes depressed.
- If she looks similar? - When you go out, at times,
you may lock eyes with strangers. Then she believes that...
- they're looking down on her... - Condescendingly?
because she's fat.
- Goodness. - That's how she feels.
Then you should compliment her more.
Yes, in order to raise her self-esteem, you could do that.
- Right. - I do that every time she asks.
I tell her that she's pretty and not fat.
But still, she can't get rid of that negative thought.
I have a rather high self-esteem.
Why?
Hold on.
You should be like that.
- I see. - You should be.
Share with us an incident...
when you felt like she was going way overboard.
Whenever we need to talk to a stranger, I have to do it.
When my wife visits me to eat together,
the other workers say that she's pretty and greet her.
But she hides behind me...
and whispers back, "Hello."
So at times, they think she didn't reply back.
Since she's always hiding behind me,
some of the workers probably don't even know her face.
You must have a broad back, and she must be petite.
I do have a broad back.
- His self-esteem is off the roof. - It's quite high.
He has very high self-esteem.
You've been married for only nine years,
but do you fight often due to your personalities?
I tell her that she's pretty and not fat...
because I mean it.
But since she's so pessimistic about it,
- I get irritated as well. - Right.
- You get irritated? - Yes.
These days, I can't help but blurt out, "Even if..."
"I say that you're neither fat nor ugly, you wouldn't believe me."
I guess you don't want to speak with her.
- You'd want her to stop talking. - Right.
- Who would... - But I'm curious whether or not...
when his wife asked such questions,
he looked into her eyes while replying.
- If he was sincere? - Right.
- Or if he was halfhearted about it. - Right.
Or since you know that she's self-conscious about that,
have you ever complimented her first?
- You're right. - First?
- Before she asked him? - Yes, I'm curious about that.
I only replied when she asked.
- You never said it first. - No.
We should meet her and talk more about this.
Hello.
Be confident today.
Don't worry about the others. They're all on your side.
Hello.
(Does she keep doubting her husband due to her lack of self-esteem?)
She's shy in front of strangers.
It must've not been an easy decision to come out here.
It was very difficult,
but I do know that this is a huge worry of mine.
Since I wanted to fix it, I decided to come here.
- I see. - You did well.
Good job.
(Let's worry about this together.)
- I'm curious about something. - It's unexpected.
Do you judge everyone based on their appearances?
No, I don't.
Excluding myself, everyone else in this world looks good-looking.
I look in the mirror and ask why I look like this...
and why I'm so fat.
And when I gain weight, I gain weight...
in specific places only, so I'm unhappy about that.
That's how it is for others too.
Don't you know how difficult it is to have balance when gaining weight?
Look at me. I have balance.
Despite your husband's telling you that you're not fat,
are you not happy with that?
No, because it doesn't sound sincere.
Like he's mentioned before,
he's never complimented me first.
- See? - So...
when I ask him, he sounds forced to say...
that I'm pretty.
That's why it never seemed heartfelt.
Have you ever complimented him first?
He should do something worthy...
of receiving compliments.
- They're surely a married couple. - Right.
I see.
- She talks well. - She does.
She's funny.
She doesn't seem to have any issues.
Is there a reason why you started lacking self-esteem?
Actually, in eighth grade,
I was bullied.
- I see. - Goodness.
Feel free to talk about it. It's all in the past.
She's still not over it completely.
- We're on your side. It's okay. - I...
- Yes, we are. - We'll fight with you.
I used to be very outgoing.
At times, they left me behind at the cafeteria.
- They were so mean. - Other times,
they took me to a coin karaoke where it was really tiny.
3 or 4 of them surrounded me...
and talked down to me.
After that, I started believing that...
I did something wrong. I was too afraid...
to ask them why they were doing that to me.
I think that was when it all began.
(She lost grip of her own value.)
When you ask him if you're fat,
he says you're not, but then you fight.
How would it make you feel if he said you seemed...
to have gained weight, but that he likes it?
He did say that once.
I asked him whether I had gained weight or not.
And he asked if I wanted him to tell the truth.
That's so upsetting to hear.
- He asked you? - Yes.
He said I did gain weight, but I wasn't happy to hear that.
- Goodness. - I said fine and stopped talking.
- Tell us what he should've said. - Exactly.
I'd like for him to say, "Why would you think that way?"
"Who said that to you?"
I'd like him to give me a hug.
Right, I get it.
- Through his actions? - Yes.
When I ask him such questions, he doesn't look at me...
but say that I didn't gain weight.
- What about this? It is what I do. - He doesn't even look at her?
- Call me. - Dong Yeob.
(You're the best no matter what.)
- Good. - Come on.
- That seems to be halfhearted. - That does.
You do that when she calls your name?
Gosh.
What if he were to just hug you?
"Did I gain..."
- What about that? - I'd think he is crazy.
(He feels guilty.)
- Crazy? - She's so witty.
I can totally understand her now.
You may have high self-esteem,
but you don't give her enough attention.
I always think...
that she's not fat and that she's pretty.
So I don't need to look at her while saying that.
- Come on. - My gosh.
Does she ask you this?
"Is she prettier than me?"
- Do you not look at her once again? - I say that she's incomparable.
- She's incomparable? - That won't do.
(Let me teach you.)
This method of mine works excellently well.
When I watch TV with my wife and I'm on a show...
with a female celebrity, she asks me how she looks in real life.
But you shouldn't wait until she finishes her question.
"How does she look..."
(Don't even talk about her!)
That's hilarious.
You have to wave your hands too.
- Wave your hands. - My husband does that too.
- Really? - Yes.
Then my wife would smile and say, "Why? Why is she so horrible?"
- Seriously? - Yes.
(This is how you maintain peace within your family.)
How does that sound? Is it nice?
- I think it's awesome. - Right?
Try it. "Honey."
"Who's better? Yeong Ja or me?"
(Which one of us is prettier?)
"Who's better? Yeong Ja or me?"
(Disgusted)
(He doesn't mean that, right?)
She's loving it. Are you okay?
He's good.
That was good.
Good work.
- That could work. - Why am I tearing up?
You sacrificed yourself.
I have a question. Have you ever tried...
to lose weight? For example, through exercise?
- Have you ever tried... - Right.
- to develop your self-esteem? - Earnestly?
I think I eat as much as I work out because I feel stressed.
In order to strengthen my self-esteem,
I got my jaw done two years ago.
- You got your jaw done? - Yes.
- Really? - I removed a part of my jaw.
Even after the surgery, people around me said...
that they couldn't see much difference.
- So I was unhappy... - Right.
and lacked self-esteem.
(You can't develop your self-esteem by going under the knife.)
In your story, it said that...
- your wife was suspicious of you. - Yes.
Could you elaborate on that?
There was a time when I used to work at a restaurant.
My wife came over to eat.
I had to talk with a female worker, so I did.
When I returned home that evening,
she asked, "What did you talk about? Are you close? How pretty is she?"
She bombarded me with questions.
At first, I answered all of them. But then, I got irritated.
- I see. - I couldn't understand her.
Are you bothered by his female coworkers?
Did something happen?
He was texting one female coworker.
They had nicknames such as...
Pretty Face and Handsome.
- That's how he called her? - Yes, and she called him Handsome.
- Handsome? - Yes.
He never called me that way before.
So when I read that, I thought it was ridiculous.
- Right. - That must've hurt.
- That's when... - Goodness.
- I became uncomfortable. - I can understand her.
- How could you do that? - That's not right.
(He thinks he's handsome.)
How could you call yourself Handsome?
Like I've said,
- I have high self-esteem. - Okay.
I always say that I am handsome,
so my coworkers went, "Fine. We will call you Handsome."
That's how the nickname came to be.
How about Pretty Face?
You called a female coworker Pretty Face.
She insisted on using my name, so I said,
"Let's use nicknames for each other."
"Call me Handsome and I will call you Pretty Face."
- Is that how it came to be? - Yes.
We did it as a joke...
before I got married.
I blocked all of my female friends on the instant messaging app...
at this point.
- Really? - Yes.
I haven't met my friends in over a year...
because I have to go home right after work.
If I run a bit late, she goes, "Where are you?"
- "When are you coming?" - She calls you.
Yes. When there is a get-together, I need her permission to go.
I bet your social life suffers a lot.
How much do you get as an allowance?
- 100 dollars? - Yes.
- Really? - Yes.
This is like a special on husbands who get a 100-dollar allowance.
- Isn't it too little? - It is.
I was taking a bus home...
one time.
I fell asleep and missed my stop.
- It happens. - From that day onward,
I report to her which station...
I am passing.
- You do that with each station? - Yes.
She thinks you might go somewhere else.
She was so anxious...
that she installed a security camera at home.
- At home? - Yes.
I didn't think she was actually using it.
One time, she went to her parents' place...
for a few days.
I was lying on my bed and watching TV...
when she called me.
"You need to go to work tomorrow. Why aren't you asleep yet?"
My goodness.
(His wife is watching him.)
How did she know?
She set up a security camera inside the house.
Yes. She set it up right next to the TV.
It's right in front of the bed.
- It's right in front of the bed. - It's scary.
It's really scary.
I turned off the TV and went to bed.
He twisted the story.
He did something that betrayed my trust.
What did he do at home to betray your trust?
When I was at my parents' place one time,
he ordered and ate jjajangmyeon...
without my knowledge.
(What's wrong with that?)
- There is nothing wrong with that. - Also,
he went to a bowling alley...
behind my back...
after telling me that he will go to bed.
He played there until late at night...
and went to work the next day.
After that, I couldn't trust him anymore.
I told him that I worry about him as much as he worries about me...
and suggested installing a security camera.
He agreed to it.
You should say something as a husband.
Say something.
I am so flustered.
Is it so wrong to order jjajangmyeon?
I don't think it's wrong to eat jjajangmyeon.
It's not a grave sin.
I don't think it's wrong to go to a bowling alley.
If I had more money...
and he hadn't caused trouble,
I wouldn't have been this way.
Before he began to date me,
he went into debts.
It was a big burden to both of us.
Jjajangmyeon wasn't the only thing.
He used 150 dollars in total...
- with micropayments. - What?
By himself?
Yes. By himself.
150 dollars was the total.
- You used that much in a month. - You didn't use all of it...
- in a day. - No.
In any case, he does everything...
you want him to do.
He even gets your permission to go to get-togethers,
but you haven't changed?
Everyone says he listens to me,
but he doesn't talk to me.
When I want to talk about something serious,
the conversation should continue.
But when I tell him how I felt, he goes,
- "Okay. Sorry." - "Sorry."
- He cuts me off. - I see.
"I felt sad because of this."
"Okay. Sorry."
He ends the conversation that way.
I know exactly how she feels.
Hyun Hee and I quarreled...
in the beginning.
I told her that she should do the dishes...
right after a meal.
She said, "Then I won't eat."
(Then I won't eat.)
She replied that way.
What?
I was so flustered.
The conversation didn't go anywhere.
I see.
I wasn't like this at first.
I think it's the result of the vicious circle.
She gets suspicious and obsesses over my every move.
I get annoyed and we have a fight.
Then we talk about divorce.
That's how your wife brought up divorce.
Yes.
(That's how she brought up divorce.)
I am sure you didn't mean that.
I didn't mean that.
But when my husband gets angry,
he can't control his emotions.
His body shakes...
and he throws things.
(He throws things.)
- So... - You shouldn't do that.
(That's unbelievable.)
One time, he threw a frying pan...
and broke it.
One time, he threw a table and broke the light.
- My goodness. - He threw a table.
It was so scary...
that I told him I can't live like this.
I talked about divorce once then.
- My goodness. - That's a bit...
(They only hurt each other's feelings.)
I have learned that...
both parties become unhappy...
- when one obsesses over another. - That's right.
You should think of your spouse as a partner...
in your journey towards a fun life.
What kind of a married life do you want to enjoy with him?
I want my husband to come home and tell me...
what he did and ate.
I want to have a conversation with him.
That's what I really want.
That would work if it suits his personality.
That's right. It would work with people like...
Seo Jang Hoon and Kim Young Chul.
They can talk without a break...
for 2 or 3 hours.
When I meet them, I can go without a single word.
"I talk to you, so you should talk to me too."
That could be hard for your husband.
- That's right. - That's right.
You should understand each other more.
One thing my mom said to me when I got married was,
"Cherish and love your wife."
"The woman who receives love from her husband..."
- "has high self-esteem." - That's right.
You should understand that...
your wife is different from you...
and make an effort...
for the sake of the relationship.
Your wife should do the same.
There will always be people...
who are more beautiful and handsome than you.
That's why you need to find your own charms.
- That's right. - I have every reason...
to be self-deprecating.
I am fat, ugly,
single, and childless.
I have too many things I want to eat...
and too little money.
- Why do I sound so pitiful? - My goodness.
I think...
it's a good idea to embrace your faults.
I have wide cheekbones.
I have a square jaw.
Be careful at night.
I could embrace my faults,
- but you shouldn't imply that... - It wasn't like that.
- I am ugly and fat. - I was talking about myself.
Hyun Hee, your husband won't make it home tonight.
(Laughing)
Say what you want to say to your wife.
The husband with a broad back.
The handsome husband.
Honey, no matter how you look,
I will cherish you.
I will talk to you more from now on,
so I hope you will trust me.
He means his words. His eyes turned red.
I can tell that he means his words.
(Did his words reach her?)
Honey.
You are struggling a lot because of me, right?
- She loves him so much. - I know.
When you come home after a long day at work,
my heart aches.
When you get hurt,
my heart aches.
Work hard so that we can have a pretty baby...
and live happily.
I love you.
(We are rooting for you!)
My goodness.
Their eyes turned red. Gosh, both of them are nice.
They love each other very much.
They don't want to treat each other badly.
You shouldn't have eaten jjajangmyeon alone.
(His tears stop.)
Let's go.
I don't think it's a worry.
If you show your consideration...
and let your husband rest after work,
he will change.
Jung Won, it seems like your voice goes hoarse easily.
I guess my vocal cords are weak.
See? Having an oval face is useless.
Her voice went hoarse because her vocal cords are weak.
You see how my voice stays strong until the very end?
Everyone has strong and weak points.
- Myung Hoon. - I don't think it's a worry.
I don't think it's a worry.
How about you, Yu Jeong?
When you grab too tightly, sand escapes from your hand.
- That's right. - If you grab lightly...
You know what I mean.
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